I know you are thinking, Dating shouldn’t be a game…that’s childish… and blah blah blah. In reality, dating is most definitely a game! It’s about whose competing with who to get what they want.(Think about it)
BUT FIRST: We have to understand that it’s okay to keep your options open while dating. Nothing is wrong with dating more than one person at one time. Like the saying goes, “Don’t keep all of your eggs in one basket”.
Now before you even start the dating process, I say you have to keep in mind these two very important things:
1. HAVE SELF CONFIDENCE
There is always a chance that the guy you are dating is also dating others because he is not in a relationship (They have that right and so do you). Don’t be surprised. In dating, I have learned that you cannot worry about the next chick. Stop comparing yourself to others and focus on what makes you so special. Focus on why YOU are the prize. Guys like different qualities in different women. So what if the other girl he is dating has big boobs and a big butt and you don’t. He likes you for a reason. It could be your caring and fun personality that is what’s keeping him around. Either way,BE YOURSELF. Let him fall in love with who YOU are and not of who you think he will like. That could be stressful trying to keep up. (Trust me, been there, done that)
2. LOVE YOURSELF
I know you have heard this saying before, “If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?” If you aren’t happy with yourself, you will never be happy with someone else. Isn’t this the truth?! There was a time when no matter what my man (at the time) did, I was never pleased. I started blaming him for my unhappiness, but in reality it was because I wasn’t happy with myself. I was more worried about all of my flaws more than anything else. I have learned, it’s okay to find happiness with someone BUT happiness must come from within FIRST. Also, once you have gotten to know yourself, you won’t let people mistreat or take advantage of you. That is very important!
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